a peek inside the fishbowl

I am struggling to think of a household chore that is more disgusting than cleaning the DRIPPINGS out of the toilet brush holder. *

Blech! Just the word DRIPPINGS is making me green around the gills.

Is there anything worse than that? I think not.

DRIPPINGS !

* and I managed to do it WITHOUT TOUCHING IT. Good lord. I think I deserve a reward.

So…

I am spending my Sunday evening tapping out this post instead of reading everything there is to know about the big fire at CTV Ottawa.

*fingers in ears NOTHING IS HAPPENING LA LA LA LA*

Anyway, yes, Valentine’s! It’s coming. SOON. And if you’re like me, you like to use this as an opportunity to do something fun and creative with your kids, right? Well, I suggest you start now. Many of us here in Ottawa have a P.D. day on the 12th and Family Day in the 15th, so many classrooms are probably exchanging cards on the 11th.

I poked around the interweb for ideas and really liked the butterfly card designed by Skip to My Lou. (Are you familiar with S.T.M.L? If you like pretty things and like crafts and are feeling creative you will REALLY like this site. Trust me. And wave goodbye to the next 60 minutes.)

I daresay her Valentine’s card design is much nicer than mine (I won’t be offended if you choose her template over mine, really I won’t), but I wanted one that was totally blank so the girls could write their own messages and decorate them their own way.

Here is the finished product:

… and here’s how we did it.

1) I made a template in Photoshop. If you’d like to make this card too, simplify your life and use my template. It’s up on Flickr (can someone tell me if you’re able to download and print it? Thanks!).

2) Print it out on cardstock, making as many copies as you need.

3) Buy a box of lollipops. They don’t have to be heart-shaped. These are just the ones I happened to grab at the store.

4) Have the child cut out the shapes, write the Valentine’s day messages and decorate each one. Sarah decided to use pink and red markers to decorate her butterflies with little patterns. She also used some heart-shaped stickers we had on hand. Rubber stamps would work really well for this, as would glitter and paint. It’s up to you!

5) Cut little slits in the butterfly body and poke the lollipop sticks through. Voila! You have wings! (We didn’t do googly eyes like S.T.M.L. but I think our solution still works.)

As you can see, Sarah decided to write her message (it reads: “I’m all a-flutter for you!”) on the white part, inside:

… and she did most of the decorating on the outer (pink) side. It’s up to you!

Sarah took an assembly line approach to her cardmaking. She cut them all out, then wrote all the messages, and then did all the decorating. I didn’t do very much at all.

I like how each butterfly is different.

Sarah worked really hard on them and is very proud of her efforts. I am too! :)

Let me know if you made these… and how they worked out for you!

When the phone rings this early on a Sunday morning you know it’s not going to be good news.

My first waking thought was SOMEONE HAS DIED. But when I heard Mark say: “you’re kidding” to the person on the other end of the line I knew it couldn’t be a death. As it turned out it was almost as bad.

There was a massive fire at the CTV Ottawa building on Merivale Road very early this morning. No one was hurt but the damage is extensive. The initial figure that’s being tossed around is $2.5 million but it has to be more than that. The newsroom is gone - expensive equipment - but more importantly, miles of archival footage is too. It’s the visual history of our city.

Some of you may or may not know this, but my husband Mark works at CTV. He’s a producer/director and has been there almost 25 years. CTV is his other family.

He drove out there as soon as he got the news to survey the scene. “It’s bad,” he said on a crackling phone. “Inside is all black.” He took this photo.

I’m trying to be optimistic, but this turn of events has hit our family hard and we’re in a bit of a daze today. I’m sure the managers are gathering, trying to figure it all out. But there’s almost no point speculating. Who knows what Monday will bring.

This is going to come out long and rambly, I just know it.

I’ve been dwelling on yesterday’s Hyper Parenting post and this has all been percolating in my brain a little too long. :)

I’ve been reading other posts and comments about the Hyper Parenting doc. I have two other comments to make about this topic:

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So who watched the Hyper Parents on CBC’s Doc Zone last night?

Some random thoughts while I drink my coffee:

Hyper parents and coddled kids have been around since the dawn of time, when cavemoms protected their biggest and strongest sons to help ensure long and prosperous lives. I think these feelings are unavoidable, and even hard-wired. We want to protect our kids because we love them and want them to survive in this world of ours. It’s in our genes.

The thing that’s different between us and the cavemoms is the technology available at our disposal: cellphones, GPS units, nanny cams, software to enable computer keystroke logging etc.

Here’s a thought. As a kid, how did you feel when your parents read your diary? Or snooped in on your phone calls? Or went through your pockets? I bet you felt pretty crappy. So why would today’s parents want to do this to their kids? What kind of relationship does this create?

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When I was in j-school I was part of a team of reporters who put together a series of articles about gambling for our little newspaper. This wasn’t a university or class newspaper, it was actually distributed to the larger community. (I should know, because the students also did the distribution part.)

My article was about the local bingo hall, and to make a long story short, I got in trouble for it. I had hung out at the bingo hall for a long time, people watching and making notes. I deliberately picked the one person in the entire place that looked, well, let’s just say she was the one who looked like she was most likely to be a bingo fanatic.

I interviewed her and she gave me a fabulous quote about how dangerous it was to play bingo… because the winners are paid in cash and sometimes BAD GUYS wait for you to leave and they jump you in the parking lot and steal your cash.

Unfortunately, I don’t think I corroborated this part of the story with anyone, and my editor (the teacher!) got a phone call from an angry bingo hall owner. I was wrong for running blindly with this juicy little tidbit, but I also remember the teacher telling me that I shouldn’t have picked one bingo-crazed lady to represent the entire world of bingo.

That’s what I felt when I was watching this documentary at times. I know where the producers for this doc are coming from (I graduated from the journalism program with the goal of being a documentary film producer, so I get it) and it truly is a double-edged sword. On one hand you only have a certain amount of time to get your point across so you want to pick great examples to prove your point. On the other, doing so is almost unfair, and makes your sources amount to one huge generalization.

These parents didn’t represent all parents. I hope the non-parents out there get it. There are an awful lot of us who are not enrolling our children in wall-to-wall extracurricular activities to pad future resumes, praising them up and down for everything they do, or planning lavish birthday parties.

I would have liked to see a conversation between a “normal” parent and one of the helicopter parents. Now wouldn’t that be interesting?

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I liked Rebecca’s comment in my short post about this the other day. We’re all a little hyper sometimes, aren’t we? It depends on the situation. My mother thinks I’m crazy that I provide homework help when my kids need it. She just doesn’t get it.

There is a fine line, isn’t there? What matters is the big picture overall. OVERALL, are you the type of parent who lets their kid do it for themselves? Do you give your kid age-appropriate responsibilities? Who’s in charge? You? Or your kid?

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There’s a scene near the beginning of this documentary of a mom and a $4000 party she planned for her one year old daughter. Ironically (!), it’s a princess party, complete with a giant custom birthday cake and a Disney-costumed storytelling princess. The mom said that this party was actually very middle-of-the-road. If that’s the middle, what else is there?

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What I found the most interesting about this documentary is to see how these coddled kids end up. Parents calling up the university, decorating their workspaces, negotiating salaries? Yowza.

These poor parents think they’re helping and protecting their kids, but they’re really not doing them any favours. In fact, they’re just setting them up for failure later in life.

We parents have to let go. It’s hard, but we have to do it. And it starts when they are small.

For my next post I am going to jot down a few niggling thoughts I’ve had about how to play with our kids. It’s something I have been dwelling on for awhile now and it’s time I get it down.

I think this whole issue starts with play … what do you think?

I just finished watching a special advance copy of a documentary called Hyper Parents & Coddled Kids.

This piece is about “helicopter” parents who protect their children from just about everything. But instead of protecting them, they’re essentially screwing them up so badly that the kids end up with anxiety attacks at university, and later need their parents to negotiate pay raises and offer an allowance if they happen to go bankrupt.

But I digress.

This is from the press release - which sums it up quite nicely:

The one-hour documentary “Hyper Parenting & Coddled Kids” examines the intensely competitive hyper parenting phenomenon – and its effects on kids today. From exposing babies in the womb to prenatal education systems and enrolling them in gymnastics before they can walk to negotiating their grown kids’ job contracts and salaries, parents today work hard to make sure their children stay ahead of the pack. But as these kids reach adulthood, will it be to their advantage or will it backfire?

I need to perculate on this issue a bit - it ties into some topics I’ve been mulling over since before we left for holidays. I will write more on this topic as soon as I can pull it together.

I did want to let you know that this documentary is premiering on Thursday February 4 at 9 p.m. ET/PT on CBC-TV’s Doc Zone. I will say this, if you’re a parent, you have to watch it.

(As I watched I wondered, how many parents see themselves in this? How many parents will be watching and thinking: holy shit, I am screwing up my kid BIG TIME. At times I felt like I was watching a whole other species of human. WHO ARE THESE PEOPLE?)

ANYWAY, click here for a sneak preview.

Back tomorrow!